You Matter in This Situation
Hearing that your partner might be pregnant can bring a lot of emotions at once. You may feel shocked, worried, protective, or unsure what to say. Many men are told to “stay out of it” or feel like they have to hide what they are feeling.
At Women’s Hope Medical Clinic in Auburn, we understand that an unexpected pregnancy affects you, too. You have an important role, and you do not have to figure it out on your own. Our services are confidential and provided at no cost.
How You Can Support Your Partner
While this is your partner’s pregnancy and her body, your response can make a big difference in how she feels and what comes next. Support is not about having all the answers. It is about being present, calm, and willing to listen.
You can support her by:
Staying present. Avoid “checking out,” even if you feel overwhelmed. Simply being there shows you care.
Listening first. Ask how she is feeling and what she is thinking before you jump to solutions.
Avoiding pressure. It is never helpful to push her toward any specific option, including abortion. Instead, talk openly about what each of you is thinking.
Learning together. Offer to come with her to appointments so you can both hear the same information and ask questions.
Talking about next steps. Discuss how pregnancy, parenting, adoption, or other options might affect both of your lives.
Honest, respectful conversations can strengthen your relationship and help you both feel less alone in the process.
Support for You, Too
Men often feel they have to “be strong” and not show emotions, but you may also be dealing with fear, confusion, or worries about the future. It is okay to admit you need someone to talk to as well.
At Women’s Hope, male advocates are available to talk with you one-on-one. You can ask questions about pregnancy options, talk through your concerns, and get support in your role as a partner and potential father. This is a private space where you can be honest about what you are thinking and feeling.
What to Expect When You Come In
When you and your partner visit Women’s Hope, you will both be welcomed into a calm, confidential environment. Your partner can receive medical services such as pregnancy testing and ultrasound, and you can both meet with staff to discuss what the results mean.
While your partner meets with a member of our medical team, you may also have the opportunity to speak with a male advocate. You can talk about how to support her, how this pregnancy may affect your relationship, and what options are available to you both.
There is no judgment and no pressure, only information and support to help you move forward together.